What is your goal for this experience? Perhaps you have more than one goal. A common response many moms have given is “To have a positive experience.” Or, “To be as calm as possible and have as little stress as possible.” Some women say their goal is to birth without medication. Others may have a goal of no tissue separation. The possibilities are endless. Many partners have never considered a goal for themselves and answer this question with, “For my wife to be supported and have a positive experience.” Or, “To be able to help as much as I can.” There is no wrong answer but it is important to consider what you want or are expecting from the incredible experience of birth.